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Jodie Foster gets described as gay or a lesbian in public media since her famous "coming out" speech -- in which she didn't use such words...
The Internet tells me it's been about a decade since Jodie Foster's so-called coming out speech. It doesn't seem to be mentioned in the piece linked above, but I often have done substantial more research than gets included in anything I write and my recollection is that some of what I read indicated that the LGBTQ community had been giving her a hard time for YEARS before she delicately admitted something like "My co-parent is this lovely person right here (who looks like a woman and has a female name)."

If you are LGBTQ, why would you do that? YOU want rights and respect for YOU in the form of "The people of planet Earth need to RESPECT me regardless of my sexual orientation or gender identity!" AND your solution is to be openly disrespectful and hostile to a suspected member of the LGBTQ community?

What is WRONG with you?

I had difficulty finding the recent post on THIS site quoted below because it doesn't use the name on this site of the celebrity I wrote about elsewhere and speculated could be gay and MY personal BIAS says I think they are probably gay.
I've just written a piece elsewhere that hypothetically could have been posted here and wasn't. It's not posted here in part because I feel like posting it here would be a stronger accusation "You're REALLY GAY, aren't you?!" and I'm not interested in putting anyone on the spot, which is perhaps a silly reason given my lack of traction or traffic.
Very famous people in the public eye are used to being talked about and have probably made their peace with not everything being accurate. If not, they probably have a PR person going "Can you STOP already? Get over it. There's no such thing as bad publicity -- except when YOU are actually THE PROBLEM."

If you are LGBTQ and wanting to talk about something like your role models and you want to say something like "She seems gay to me and that's a good thing in my eyes." that's FINE.

But if you want the world to treat LGBTQ people better, maybe you could start with being respectful of famous people you speculate might be one of you.

It's possible to have conversations with your friends or whatever and point to famous people and say "Well, rumor has it she's living with a chick and her net worth is $$$$, so I don't think it's to split the rent. So maybe check some of your assumptions at the door because while I don't KNOW if she's GAY, YOU don't know for certain she's straight EITHER."

You can speculate and strongly argue that other people don't know for sure without acting like a big name star is obligated to wear stuff on their sleeve for your convenience that's likely to be a boatload of trouble for them.

You're trying to DITCH boatloads of trouble. Why would you ADD to the problems of a famous person you believe is probably gay and bust their chops in the name of "You ASSHOLES need to be more RESPECTFUL of MY RIGHTS!! And like let's set the example here for how to be respectful by throwing one of our own under a bus!!!! GRRR!!! Because MY LIFE needs to be easier and fuck all y'all!!!!! Even if you are GAY!!!"

I try hard to talk about stuff that works and I'm aware that the LGBTQ community feels it needs more role models or representation or visibility to further its political goals, but I don't think that's the kind of attention that's needed.

That looks to me like putting out the fire with gasoline.

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