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I had a very private life. I tend to think first about what individuals can do. This post is reframing this blog as more explicitly political or about large scale social things.

Goal One
Remove all child molesters from positions of moral authority.
If you are pro LGBTQ rights, I think the SINGLE most important thing you can work on is putting child molester priests (preachers, Rabbis, etc) in prison for their crimes.
That's a previously published unsupported Opinion. Here's an attempt to support or explain that opinion.

I don't know how well I say it, but I have a piece called Trauma and being LGBTQ and it's probably not the only place I try to say that I believe that:

1. 2000 percent of humanity has BAGGAGE about sexual and gender stuff.
2. Simply BEING LGBTQ tends to trigger everyone you meet about their issues and then they take it out on you.

Christianity trends extremely homophobic and the entire PLANET knows the Catholic Church has a POLICY of moving child molester priests and sweeping it under the rug. Priests are supposed to be moral authorities teaching us how to live right and generally speaking, modeling appropriate behavior is the single most powerful way to teach other people how to live right.

That "Do as I say, not as I do." schtick generally does poorly, before you get into "Oh, and child RAPE and covering it up is one of THE most socially, emotionally, psychologically and spiritually poisonous things in the known universe."

As ONE idea: If you were assaulted, you may be able to file a police report or otherwise advocate for meaningful change. Your goal should be a zero tolerance policy for child molesters being PAID to serve as moral authorities teaching people how to live right.

(IF they invent a genuine CURE for pedophilia, get back to me with policies for what then. In the meantime: If you molest kids, you don't belong in such a job. Full stop.)

Goal Two
An adequate supply of decent housing for small households.

I have an ENTIRE website dedicated to fleshing out ideas on HOW to do that. It's called Project SRO.

I've thought a lot about this and done a lot of research and this blog began because the LGBTQ crowd is at crazy high risk of homelessness and part of that is absolutely prejudice and not wanting those people around here.

A larger part is probably an intersection of:

1. Housing is generally too expensive and homelessness is on the rise.
2. Heteronormative culture pressures people to get married and move into a home designed for a nuclear family and we mostly don't provide meaningful other housing options.
3. The LGBTQ crowd probably has challenges making enough money and that compounds the problem.

If we solved the housing issue such that anyone can potentially work part-time in a service industry job and scrape by, most likely homelessness becomes vastly less of an issue for the LGBTQ crowd. 

To be crystal clear: I think this would vastly improve life for heteronormative couples too. It's a general solution to a general problem that happens to disproportionately impact the LGBTQ crowd.

Goal Three 
Decriminalize LGBTQ status. 
You live someplace where it's illegal be gay? I don't have the power to singlehandedly overturn the laws in your country but I can suggest a POSSIBLE course of action, though you probably won't like it.
That's actually from a piece from December 2023 called A Hypothesis. I encourage you to read it. It's about working towards abolishing laws making homosexuality illegal. 

Goal Four
Advocate for policies that move us towards more individual ungendered bathrooms to resolve The Bathroom Debate for the LGBTQ community. Again, I think this would help a lot of people and if someone tries to act like individual ungendered bathrooms are "a trans thing" or some nonsense, they aren't engaging in good faith.

Footnote 
Except for Goal Three, all of the goals listed above are general goals of mine to try to make a better world. Even if you are a raging homophobe, hopefully you can see that we desperately need housing solutions and that individual ungendered bathrooms as a more standard expectation is good for everyone and no one should be okay with aiding and abetting child molestation.

Housing solutions and trying to prevent sexual assault and help people recover are interests of mine going back decades.

I have mixed feelings about creating this list of existing, ongoing stuff I have been working on for a lot of years. On the one hand, if you are LGBTQ or pro LGBTQ rights, maybe it helps clarify for you how this furtgers LGBTQ rights.

On the other hand, it's a handy list for what homophobes can hate on and try to sabotage. Homophobes should probably GET THERAPY and probably won't, but I wish people would stop allowing dysfunctional people to sabotage generally beneficial societal goals because they fear it might disproportionately help the LGBTQ crowd for planet Earth to be generally more functional.

If they don't have a better argument for you than "no homo," please disregard their desperate desire to wear their discomfort with their own sexuality or gender identity on their sleeve and pretend it's not about THAT.

Donald Trump: Probably gay or TRANS. 
And completely SPINELESS and unable to make peace with it.

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