The Genevieve Files

And another reason to not REALLY be enthused about continuing to write here: I'm very very very against trying to "cure" people of being gay, but I suspect that some people who think they are gay are really attracted to people who have enough of something in common with them and they just aren't finding it in members of the opposite sex. Some chick on probably Reddit remarked once that she was beginning to worry she liked bad guys and then realized all the bad guys in movies she liked were played by the same actor. She liked that actor in any role he played, bad guy or not. During my divorce, I was involved with a man fourteen years older than me and about the time I was thinking "This is a shit show and I'm NEVER getting with an older man again." I met a guy sixteen years older than me and we really hit it off. I have B.A.G.G.A.G.E about my tendency to like older men. It took me a long time to sort that and not feel like me liking older men somehow was ...

To my surprise, this blog already has a whopping four posts dated 2026. This will be the fifth post this year. I thought it was deader than that. I have a lot to say about a lot of topics. It's fueled a bunch of different blogs while I try desperately to both "find my voice" and figure out how to open my mouth in public without undue drama. I've spent years throwing things at a wall and seeing what works. I have several blogs that either gelled after multiple attempts to find my voice, like Native Influence that finally came together earlier this year after multiple tries that got redacted in whole or in part, or blogs that were the umpteenth attempt to make a blog about a concept, like Feminine Character Works replaced a project called Feminist Slacking. I also have a history of giving up on a project and declaring it DEAD, then finally writing buckets. That happened on Project SRO where I did a brain dump of unpolished stuff after announcing "I'm done an...

Fear and Self Loathing  documents my reasons for believing the worst homophobes are closeted homosexuals. A more recent post says: I believe that trauma in the LGBTQ community from family that simply cannot accept them is so common that most people cannot distinguish the damage done by abusive bullshit from "LGBTQ." If you are a parent, I suggest you get with the person in the mirror and get over your crap. Let me suggest you start with getting a boxed set of Farscape or ability to stream it. In one episode, the make the point that the problem isn't the occupying forces demanding tribute. It's the local leadership agreeing to it without a fight. I love my sons . I know I love my sons because I CHOSE to get over my crap for their sake, something I didn't know how to otherwise do. I was molested as a child. I know some parents tell their kids stuff like "Scream if someone wants to touch your private parts." I thought long and hard  about it and decided...

I've talked about this previously on Reddit where I have a sub called r/GenevieveFiles where I was hoping to curate LGBTQ culture to reduce the degree to which LGBTQ individuals are required to reinvent the wheel for every isolated individual trying to sort their lives.  It's extremely challenging to try to dig up accurate historical information about sensitive topics such as sexual orientation or gender identity because it's typically a standard in most cultures that such topics aren't discussed publicly using explicit language. Polite phrasing only in public and that means you may not realize what they are really saying.  I'm sixty and something like in the last year or two I learned that the ZZ Top song about a Pearl Necklace is a dirty song using slang for ejaculating onto a woman's chest. I've heard that song many times. I never thought it was a dirty song. A lot of popular songs use slang for explicitly sexual things and it often goes completely unnoti...

I knew Genevieve about nine months. She was very bright and actually applied for the Thiel Twenty Under Twenty program and made it to the interview stage though she wasn't selected.  My understanding is this put her in the top ten percent of an extremely elite group. So she was drawn to me in part because I raised and homeschooled two twice exceptional sons and was involved with The TAG Project   I was fairly uniquely qualified to help a troubled youth with enormous potential and she had an unusual depth of knowledge about anything that interested her, including all things trans related. She dumped a huge list of trans resources on me which I later reposted to a shitty discussion forum of classist assholes that was "a safe space" for LGBTQ individuals and they imagined they were smart and talented and didn't know one tenth what I knew from having had a brief but intense relationship to a very gifted trans youth. The single most positive piece she shared with me was c...

This is a blog post. I don't know you and all the details of yoir life. I'm not trying to instruct you to "go play in traffic" and get maimed for life or killed. Read it and think about it for a bit before you actually do anything. Some years ago, I read a story. I want to say it was probably an anecdote about a Black American author from, say, a hundred years ago. Someone told this person she was being beaten by her man and trying to stay quiet so the neighbors in probably something like a boarding house wouldn't hear. And this famous person told her "Scream. Run out into the street." In other words, stop covering up your abuser's crimes. It amounts to aiding and abetting. This piece tells a story about when I was homeless because thst was preferable to poverty housing because of my health issues and someone who knew that told me she had no choice  but to let her poverty housing make her sick. I knew immediately that was intended to silence  me. Si...