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A couple of coming out scenes

I just randomly tripped across this scene from Rosanne. I have swiss cheese for brains and I'm mixing up Rosanne Barr with someone else and misremembered her as being gay, so I was expecting something better.

The show is about an uncouth working class family and it's not really my cup of tea, but it's not really a homophobic scene either. 

I will say that I personally intensely dislike the practice of trying to fix people up with a date. That's just not something I would do.

I think the world would be a better place if parents would stop trying to tell kids from an early age that they will grow up and fall in love with a member of the opposite sex and get married. Like just let your kids figure out their sexuality themselves. You probably don't have your own sexuality figured out that well. So butt out.

So I made a note of the clip because I write about LGBTQ stuff and figured someday I might do something with it, and then I tripped across a longer clip from what is apparently a movie I'm not familiar with.

It's on a channel called Focus Features and this is their two blurbs:
Michael (Jim Parsons) heads to his boyfriend Kit's (Ben Aldridge) apartment to hide evidence of their relationship, then meets Kit's parents at the hospital when he returns. Later at Kit’s apartment, Marilyn (Sally Field) and Bob (Bill Irwin) find out that Michael is actually Kit's boyfriend.

The story of Michael Ausiello and Kit Cowan's relationship, which takes a tragic turn when Cowan is diagnosed with terminal cancer.
I was able to find an article about it that indicates it's based on real life events. There's a Wikipedia page for it and it's called Spoiler Alert.

I tend to like stuff based on real life events, but do keep in mind that it's never one hundred percent accurate. There's always memory holes and friction between privacy, reality and trying to convey something to an audience of strangers.

But there should be a kernel of truth there with Mom being extremely offended that her son didn't tell her sooner.

Here is the clip.

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