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A Note for Parents

Fear and Self Loathing documents my reasons for believing the worst homophobes are closeted homosexuals. A more recent post says:
I believe that trauma in the LGBTQ community from family that simply cannot accept them is so common that most people cannot distinguish the damage done by abusive bullshit from "LGBTQ."

If you are a parent, I suggest you get with the person in the mirror and get over your crap.
Let me suggest you start with getting a boxed set of Farscape or ability to stream it. In one episode, the make the point that the problem isn't the occupying forces demanding tribute. It's the local leadership agreeing to it without a fight.

I love my sons. I know I love my sons because I CHOSE to get over my crap for their sake, something I didn't know how to otherwise do.

I was molested as a child. I know some parents tell their kids stuff like "Scream if someone wants to touch your private parts."

I thought long and hard about it and decided that doesn't really protect kids and it would require me to rob them of their innocence in the name of protecting them from being robbed of their innocence. 

I'm sorry for whatever you have been through and whatever makes you feel compelled to stay closeted. Please don't be an abusive parent in the name of protecting your child from worse things.

Hatred from the family who is supposed to love you is probably worse than what other people will do to them and it sets them for a bad start in life rather than setting them on the road to success. 

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