- Leave because the relationship doesn't work anymore, not because you think you found Mr or Ms Right.
- Don't delay leaving "until you FEEL" x, y or z. You probably won't FEEL that until AFTER you LEAVE. So just LEAVE. Your anxiety etc is BECAUSE you are in a dysfunctional relationship.
- Closeted gays in heterosexual relationships get WORSE, not better, the longer they keep sleeping with someone of the opposite sex. The ONLY fix I know for the sexual sadism they develop is coming out and getting a same sex lover.
- If you are in a hetero relationship and your partner is actually gay, they are not going to satisfy you and you're not going to satisfy them. Waiting until you have some chump lined up as their replacement is not a fix for your problems.
If you don't like the answers here or they don't resonate with you, don't get mad at me. Just look ELSEWHERE for your info.
If someone else has better answers -- or answers that are better FOR YOU -- coolios.
I don't claim to be the ultimate source of wisdom on any topic. Please don't act like I have.