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Cis guy attracted to trans women

He's being dismissed by some comments as wrong about trans women being all beestung lips etc. But my impression from online photos etc. is that he's correct: trans women are often very outwardly expressive of femininity in a way that's no longer the norm.

Proviso: As far as I know, I've had very little contact in person with any trans individuals. But I've made this observation before on this blog:
And my impression is that MtF trans individuals desperately crave all the makeup, jewelry, frilly clothes etc and seem oblivious to the fact that cis women often feel burdened by those social expectations and have very mixed feelings about them.
Most people are attracted to people who have a similar IQ and I believe most cis women are not really taught how to be full human beings. MtF trans individuals are raised LIKE boys and TAUGHT things most women don't get taught and that stays with them no matter what they do to reshape their bodies and lives.
AMAB trans people frequently feel entitled to pursue their goals and have the knowledge about how one does that and cis women are often raised with neither the concept that they have a right to go after things they want in life nor the mental framework for HOW one does that and THIS is probably the reason you mostly hear about trans women: because trans men are AFAB and as "girls" no one tells them they have any right to pursue what they WANT in life much less how one fucking does that.
I've written in various places about my frustrations with men being attracted to me in my opinion because I think and behave more like a man -- AKA a whole person, not someone brainwashed from birth to actively seek to be nothing but a bauble on a man's arm -- and then actively seek to break me of it.

I suspect "gay" men are sometimes:

1. Men of high IQ 
2. Who have a high sex drive 
3. And simply cannot find women who are a match in both of those details or seem to be.

Men are the ones who dominate both the high end of achievement and the low end. In the US, most homeless people are single men.

There are a lot of problems with quantifying intelligence and I don't believe that you see "more men of high IQ" because of biology. I think it's a product of social environment that women aren't TAUGHT to think and aren't ALLOWED to really think for themselves and are trained from age three or four to invest an inordinate amount of time in learning and doing "women's work."

Trying to support that assertion is outside the scope of this piece. Suffice it to say that if gender is a social construct, homosexuality may also be a social construct in at least some cases.

If what you are attracted to is "intelligence," men and women are taught to think very differently and we both can think "Wow, you're STUPID!" because we both have blind spots the other lacks due to upbringing and socialization.

What this man MAY be attracted to is women who express themselves as very feminine without being a doormat or parasite looking for a sugar daddy to pay their bills. Good luck finding a cis gal like that.

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