This site is part of a larger body of work. I would like to see society be more people-friendly generally, including in how we design work opportunities:
We need a different model, one that does away with the practice of implicitly designing jobs for cis het married men with a full-time wife at home while pretending we do no such thing.It can take a LONG time for an individual to explore all the current "rules" and figure out which ones need to change and which ones need to remain the same.
I am not interested in fostering a culture that does a better job of throwing all the rapists in jail. I am interested in fostering a culture where people do a better job of negotiating consent...Our heteronormative world dictates that monogamous heterosexual sex -- even if it involves rape or other kinds of abuse -- is more okay than anything that departs from that expectation. After decades of study and thought, my rule of thumb boils down to:
Keep it among consenting adults.Please note this means rape and child molestation are explicitly excluded as not acceptable behaviors, but polyamory, homosexual sex and even BDSM are not. Beyond that, defining what constitutes meaningful consent is a critical part of my thought processes.