Some dating app used to (and may still) publish sanitized data on their users and talk about their opinions of what the data meant.
One piece they published said men and women who stated they were bisexual both mostly messaged MEN. They concluded men who identified as bisexual were GAY and women who identified as bisexual were just trying to LOOK more adventurous to male partners.
Many years ago, when dead tree magazines were still a part of my life, I read an article that said gay men have the most sex, gay women have the least and heterosexual couples have something between those extremes. I don't recall if they had any hypotheses about why that was.
Sixty years of living suggests to me that men prefer to initiate because they don't want women randomly giving them a boner in public and THAT is the real explanation behind a lot of heteronormative cultural crap, including social norms that women don't initiate.
In other words, women get socialized from birth to not ask for sex, not ask for a date and even not ask for someone's hand in marriage. This last idiotic rule is so widespread, we have a custom that women are allowed to propose only on February 29th, a date that occurs only once every four years.
In a gay male couple, two men together probably don't NEED to discuss it for both to initiate and get a yes because they just KNOW when is a good time to ask and men are supposed to ask. So in a Gay male couple, probably both initiate and this leads to both feeling wanted by the other and lots of sex happening.
In most heterosexual couples, only HE initiates. There are exceptions and I had an affair with a man whose wife would ask him. He mentioned her slipping him a written note.
I guess being from the free love, hippie era, she learned something I never did. I married a man BECAUSE he said he was willing to meet my needs, all I had to do was ask, and then spent seventeen years getting turned down and told it was my fault because I "had terrible timing" or "didn't know how to ask."
So I strongly suspect that in most heterosexual couples, even if she's liberated and has a career and blah blah blah blah blah, no matter what either of them WANTS, probably they only have sex when he initiates WHILE he feels unwanted and undesirable and she feels neglected and mistreated because of how things go if she does dare to ask.
Gay chicks don't have a partner who society says is supposed to initiate. So probably a lot of HOPING ***you*** ask while no one asks goes on.
This is probably why women who publicly claim to be bisexual mostly exchange messages with men, or did at the time the article in question was written: They are publicly asking other people to initiate and most of them still don't do any initiating.
They list themselves as bisexual but all the women on the site mostly reply to people messaging them and don't do any initiating or very little.
Whatever your sexual orientation, if you are a woman, odds are good you have been socialized to not ask for the things you want and may have never been taught anything about how to decide whom you should say yes to when men ask you for a date, etc.
This likely negatively impacts your career as well as your personal life.
My ex husband probably wasn't JUST being an ass while telling me I had terrible timing and didn't know how to ask. There was probably some truth to that.
But in twenty-two years, he also never made any effort to help me figure out the magic coded message for getting him into bed and turned a deaf ear to anything and everything I tried to say about my lack of career being rooted in his backwards expectations of me being the little wifey.
If you are a gay gal, you may wish to have your partner read this and then have a heart to heart and see if you BOTH are sitting around HOPING the other asks while you both stew about not being wanted and not getting enough sex.
If you are pro LGBTQ rights, there might be a business opportunity here, such a gay bar oriented towards women instead of men or more female friendly than average in some fashion or a dating app intended to be ladies ONLY with instructions on how to initiate.